How often do you see kids caught in the middle of a custody dispute? Where both parties claim to be acting in the best interest of the children, when in reality, neither parent may act in their best interest. Rather, they use the kids and custody issue as leverage to either seek revenge or as a strategic tool to obtain something else.

In a perfect world—which we know this is not—kids would have equal and shared access and custody with both parents. Both parents would conveniently live very close to each other; work cooperatively to share and promote the new living arrangement, and always encourage the kids to share time with the other parent. 

Now, this scenario does, in fact, happen from time to time. It takes great maturity to recognise that the breakdown of a relationship does not, in any way, affect the role each parent plays in raising their kids.

The fact that you may not be willing to live in the same house as your former spouse or partner, does not mean that your kids should be deprived of the opportunity to do so.

It is critical to have an objective perspective of what is best for your kids and not allow the emotional pain, anger, and resentment to blur the perspective of each parent’s capability as a parent. You should also consider what your kids truly need, not only in the tumultuous period of separation but also beyond this as they grow into young adults. 

Being objective at a time like this can be extremely difficult. Parents may even require the support of an independent party to provide this balance as they work through the myriad of practical realities that need to be taken care of as a result of a separation/divorce. 

This support could range from simply providing options that suit both parents and the kids to an independent, professional assessment of what is in the best interest of the children. 

At Conscious Separation, we have the expertise to assist you in finding the right solution for you and your kids. We are here to listen and provide an unbiased assessment of the best possibilities that are available for your family. Ideally, we will support you to come to a mutual agreement about what is best for your kids.  

We believe, as parents, you are the best people to decide the future of your children and assess what will be best for them, provided your motives and objectivity are not impaired by the pain and anguish of the current circumstances. We will support you to work through this to see more clearly, so you retain control and don’t leave these critical decisions to lawyers or judges who know nothing of what your kids really need.

Please feel free to contact our team at Conscious Separation. We can help you take the battle out of custody arrangements.